In-Laws

Hmm..are you afraid when hear about the word in-laws? You may have a very irritating sister-in-law that like to intervene your business all the time, a mother-in-law, whom is very demanding and maybe a younger brother-in-law, who just can stop disturbing you. When you thought of them, your good mood turns bad. You hate them so much, am I right? Not hate? Dislike?

Have you ever thought that they are your husband's loved ones? No matter how irritating they are, you still have to face them. Try to look at a different perspective. They may irritate you to attract your attention. Yes..attention! People love to seek attention regardless of age. What they are actually seeking for is your care and love for them.

Who doesn't want a harmonious family? Who likes to quarrel with their family members? No one right?

There is always a reason why people behave in a certain way. You cannot expect everyone to behave the way they want to be. Many factors govern a person's emotions.

So why not try to make your home a better place to live in with the very first step : Understanding

Understand what each family member looks for. Approach them. Try to have a conversation with them. Discover what are their likes and dislikes. Then, slowly develop your relationship with them from there.

Take this story for example:

There is a mother-in-law, who I named Lily and her daughter-in-law, Paris. Those are not their real names. Lily is a very dedicated mother-in-law. She does almost all the house chores and help to take care her grand children. Every time, when she passes by the stall that sells kid's clothes, she cannot resist but to look at those adorable clothes. Sometimes, she will purchase it as Paris always lets her daughter wear old clothes.  However, her good deed was not appreciated. Paris scolded her for buying so many clothes for her daughter and claimed that the cupboard is full of clothes already.

Is that the right thing to do?

Every grandmother wants their grandchildren to look beautiful. Since the cupboard is full of new clothes, why   not let your daughter wear them, Paris? Won't it be wasted if it's only kept in the cupboard? Just appreciate what your mother-in-law have done for you.

You may ask how do I show?

Very simple.Buy a gift for her. Believe me! Every woman loves to receive gift. The gift symbolizes that you still remember their presence. What else a elderly woman hopes for?

She only hope to live happily with her family for the rest of her life. Let her be then. Like your mother, she deserves your love too. She may not be biologically-related to you, but she is indeed part of your family once you wear the ring on your finger.

Marriage is not as simple as the love between you and your husband, but it involves two families, the difference in culture, language (sometimes), etiquette and the list goes on.

I hope this post has change your point of view on your in-laws.

Treat them like how you wished to be treated,

Think again before you quarrel with them again. Ask yourself, is it worth?

Spread your love to your loved ones!

Signing out :)

Writing again

I have been leaving this blog for quite some time already. Always thought that blogging is a waste of time but things that happen around me, changed my mind. Perhaps, this blog could act as my personal diary. It may be a platform for me to improve my writing skills, to express my feelings and to share the lesson I have learnt from different life experiences. Hope that my blog posts could make a difference in your life. Enjoy reading!